Dear Jenna Marbles:
I’ve always liked you, because you seemed to have a great pro-feminist stance on every issue. You didn’t seem to subscribe to the misogynist bullshit that pervades the internet, the kind that tells woman what to look like, how to talk, how to dress, how to behave, and what they should do with their bodies.
I was, clearly, wrong. Your latest video was probably the most heartbreaking display of slut-shaming and victim-blaming I’ve ever seen and it made me incredibly sad.
I don’t know why you believe that the amount of casual sex a woman has had directly correlates to her worth as a human being, or why you think judging a woman for enjoying sex and haven a lot of it is okay. I don’t understand why you believe every “slut” (a woman who enjoys sex and has it frequently, often casually) has low self-worth (and if they do it’s likely because society assigns them low self worth - internalized misogyny at work). It’s deeply upsetting to me, as someone who used to be a fan of yours, to see this woman-hating, shaming, judgmental diatribe coming from someone who I thought was a friend to the feminist community.
Furthermore, you go on to blame “sluts” for boyfriend stealing (when, isn’t the cheater really the more guilty party?), and go on to talk about how women need to protect themselves from rape by avoiding one night stands (the age-old teaching women not to be raped as opposed to teaching men not to be rapists).
Us sluts don’t need your help or your pity or your condescension. Us sluts are ladies who enjoy awesome orgasms and aren’t looking for relationships, girls who don’t want the world to judge us and our self-worth based solely on our virginity or lack thereof. What the fuck does the amount of dicks I’ve encountered have to do with how good, or kind, or moral, or selfless I am? Why the fuck are you judging me? What I have done worth judging? I’ve never stolen anyone’s boyfriend or ruined a relationship, I’ve never had sex for any reason other than Gee, I sure would like to have sex.
And one day I’ll find the guy that gives me the orgasms I want to spend the rest of my life with and he won’t CARE how many guys I’ve slept with because dicks do not and never will correlate to the content of my goddamn character.
So, in closing:
(and I won’t judge you for it)
RE: Adam Carolla
There’s obviously not much left to be said about this, but the point I would try to make is this: consider the number of successful, hilarious women in comedy versus the number who are trying to get into comedy. Then consider the number of successful, hilarious men versus the number of unfunny men either in or trying to get into comedy. You’ll find that women probably have a much, MUCH higher strike rate. And not only that, but women almost never stoop to the crass, offensive bullshit - and often misogyny - that you get from fledgling male comedians.